How To Pick Up Girls

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Learning how to pick up girls and make them fall in love with you shouldn’t be hard at all. The truth is that most guys tend to over-complicate things when it comes to loving and seducing women. If you want quality relationships with women then you have got to work for it! Forget what the guru’s tell you. Most of them are clueless as hell and they only want your money. Stop spending money on worthless ebooks unless you know for sure that the instructor is legitimate. Only learn from proven experts like Mystery, Neil Strauss, Derek Rake and Johnny Malone. Ditch the rest.

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Learning how to pick up women takes time and effort – but you will enjoy quality relationships once you mastered the techniques!

Now what you need really is the right set of tools that you can use to pick up women anywhere you go. In this short article I will share with you some of the best techniques on picking up women and how you can use the same techniques to immediately improve your seduction game by at least five (5) times. Read on to discover what you can do to pick up girls and make them fall in love with you effortlessly starting from today…

How To Pick Up Girls – Techniques Of The Masters Of The Pickup Game

  • Research as much as possible when it comes to learning dating and seduction. A good source of seduction knowledge is the Internet. Join groups of your local seduction lair and start networking with your peers. These can then be your wingmen when you are out there approaching women. Also, check out blogs like the famous Seduction FAQ and Fast Seduction. Using these dating tricks you will be able to make any woman fall in love with you pretty easily. Always remember that there are guys out there who are good with women and all you need to do is to learn from them directly. There is no point reinventing the wheel when it comes to trying to understand women psychology.
  • Practice picking up girls at public places. Now you must understand that learning pick up from reading seductionfaq.com is not enough… you must be out there DOING things in order to learn about dating. Don’t be a keyword jockey. Approach women and talk to them to build rapport. Once you have done this enough you would have built yourself your very own seduction arsenal which is invaluable.
  • Learn techniques like fractionation, the Dark Rake Method and hypnosis. These are advanced techniques, but they work wonderfully well. Advanced persuasion is definitely very powerful, and you can use these techniques to “hack” into a woman’s mind and make her fall in love with you. These are also known as “female loophole” techniques that are super effective but very controversial. Use them at your own risk!
  • Be nice to look at. Ignore gurus who tell you that looks don’t matter in dating and relationships. That is total hogwash. Looks DO matter. You don’t have to look like Brad Pitt but it always helps if you are at least pleasant looking. No women want to go out with a total slob with a poor fashion sense.

 Amazing Ways To Seduce A Woman Quickly

I am constantly amazed with how most guys completely FAIL at dating. At the same time I realize that it is not your fault if you can’t seem to get a girl to like you. All you need is a good set of dating techniques and tricks which are proven time and again to work when it comes to impressing women.

Anyone who thinks that he could just learn fractionation seduction and start to get good results at dating is delusional! In fact, it’s doubly hard when the woman that you want to seduce already has a boyfriend. In this respect, learning how to seduce a woman with a boyfriend is indeed tricky – unless you already know some Boyfriend Destroyer techniques. Here at the Bricklane Bookstore we have a couple of resources on boyfriend destroyers, but we usually reserve those because these techniques can be really dangerous when they are in the hands of the unscrupulous. Some men want to use boyfriend destroyers on married women. We certainly do not want to be breaking up families!

 

Why You Should Stay Single

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For a dating tip, this is quite on the contrary side. But seriously, there are times when we – men and women alike – should take time to enjoy solitude, singlehood, and the joys of platonic love. For you men, especially, there are tempting benefits to staying single instead of going out to chase women night after night, bar after bar, and/or staying in a relationship that ends after a few nights of sleeping together. It’s totally possible to be single and happy!

Here are some of the reasons why you should stay single for a while:

  • Being single is more cost efficient. You don’t have to pay for dates, buy gifts, or buy two things all the time. Your tube of toothpaste, bar of soap, pack of bacon will last you a month or week longer because you don’t have to share it with anyone. More SAVINGS, yay! Being single is economical.
  • You have more time for yourself. You can think more clearly without having to think about what someone else might think about what you’re doing. You can cut your hair any way you like, you can grow your beard a la Dumbledore and you can think about what you want for yourself notwithstanding someone else’s opinion. You can eat, go, visit, try, sell, buy, swap, throw, keep whatever you like to your heart’s content. Oh and if it helps, yes, you have the whole bed to yourself unless you have an overly clingy pet dog.
  • You can be friends with anyone without fear or worry about any girlfriend disliking it. We girls just tend to be so affected with everything and everyone around you that sometimes we end up telling you who to befriend and who not to – directly or indirectly. When you’re single, you can befriend and flirt all you want without fear of going home to sleep on the floor. No jealous girlfriend!
  • You can focus more on other things in your life. You have more time for friends, family, hobbies, sports, vacations, camping and everything that does not really fancy women. Again, you can do as you please when you please.
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Being single means more time for yourself and other things in your life.

  • You are nowhere near the dangers of impregnating anyone and starting family life prematurely. Except if you’re a serious one-night stander or you have a ‘friend with benefits’, and you practice safe sex, you will not have to worry about coming home to a girlfriend holding a positive blue kit. No worries, then, of being shoved into the family life before you’re even ready.

The thing about halting your dating life and trying to live happily and contentedly as a single person brings you the ultimate benefit that is:

You have more time to figure out what you truly want and the kind of woman you want to end up with therefore eliminating the need to jump from one relationship to another. Simply said, staying single for an amount of time gives you the chance to figure out what you want so when you are ready again to be in a relationship, you know where to look for her and how.

And yes, this also applies to women.

P.S. If you get bored being single, go to SIBG first before making any move!

Quick Question

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Hello Bricklaners! I was having coffee earlier with a friend and he suggested that I ask someone, a woman in particular, to write for this blog as a guest. He said it would be a good idea to hear what the ladies have to say about dating and seduction.

What do you guys, think?

If you think I should invite a guest blogger, and I am really thinking about it, who do you think should it be? My girlfriend? Uhm, I’m afraid she would discover that I’ve been playing mind games with her through a technique I’ve learned recently. And I don’t want that to happen.

What about someone from our readers? I think that’s a better option. So ladies, if you’re interested, send me an email! I’ll be waiting!

Help! I Have A Jealous Girlfriend!

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Hello, I’m back after a short break. :) Last week a blog reader emailed me a question about jealousy and how to deal with it – so this is my answer.

Dealing With Jealousy – The Bricklane Way

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Dealing with jealousy is an important skill set if you want to be good at dating and relationships. Fact! :)

Girls are jealous. Period. It is in every woman’s DNA to see every other female human being a threat to her relationship. It could be that maternal instinct of protectiveness to what she calls her own, or I am just bluffing to find scientific proof why we girls are jealous. We get jealous of your best friend (of either sex), your lady friends, your lady boss, your cat, your dog, your video game, your everything except your mother and father and sisters. But the bottom line is, yes, we are the most jealous creatures in the world. But, there are days when a girl’s jealousy just goes overboard – you can always ask my own boyfriend for the most accurate description of when jealousy goes a little too much. It goes along the lines of illogical and random, oh, spawn of the devil too!

How do you handle a jealous girlfriend? How do you not lose your own wits when she gets possessed by the J word? And more importantly, how do you pacify this impossible emotion? It is important to be able to handle this sticking point if you want to be good at dating and attracting women.

Here are my jealous girl tips:

  • Don’t nag or get mad when she’s jealous. This is the most difficult thing to do. It’s hard not to get mad when she’s already accusing you of so many things just because some random girl sat next to you in the bus and got off the same stop as you. Try as hard as you can to keep a calm composure. My boyfriend could literally pass up for a monk in his level of calmness, and that is only a year of being my boyfriend. If you get mad, she will think you are guilty of whatever it is she’s accusing you of. And it will really start a fight. A jealous girl is a girl on fire (thanks Alicia), and your anger will fuel it. Fumes will die down on its own if you let it be. This is basic female psychology you must know.
  • Think of her non-jealous moments. If your girlfriend is great when she’s not jealous, I can assure you she’s still okay after being jealous. If her jealousy becomes unbearable, think of her ‘okay’ days to keep yourself from getting angry at her. Learning how to attract women requires patience – read this mindblowing article for more tips.
  • Be sweet. If you’ve managed to keep calm and thoughts of her sweet self are flooding your mind, being sweet to her in spite of her anger will be so much easier. Hug her, kiss her, hold her. This I can assure you, it will shut her up (unless she’s a total war freak or jungle girl, that’s beyond me).

Assure her and never give her a reason to be jealous. Girls are like vampires, we can smell hot-blooded women from afar and as much as we possibly can, we will protect our men. Never get tired of assuring her that you don’t care about any other girl no matter how hot they are.

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And also, keep your actions in check. Are you doing things that make her jealous? Does she get jealous with just a particular girl?

And men, remember this: all of these comes as easy or as difficult as you choose it to be. Your level of commitment will tell you.

Hope you enjoyed reading that article. See you soon!

-Steven :)

PS: Found this article on The Independent on the same topic – give it a read.

Love on The Run: Speed Dating

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Can you really find love in less than 3 minutes? Apparently, you can. Or at least try. CNN explained how speed dating has become popular ever since it started during the late 2000s, and how it’s been evolving ever since. A lot of singles have found enjoyment in speed dating, and if you are quite curious on how the whole thing goes, don’t worry—you’re not alone.

Surely, the idea of “dating” someone in less than 3 minutes will stimulate curiosity. How is that possible? Well, I think it all boils down to chemistry and spark. You know this too well—you’ll definitely know if there’s a certain chemistry that’s going on between you and your date. When it comes to speed dating, 3 minutes is enough for the both of you to determine if there’s a spark or if there’s that initial “thrill” of meeting someone for the first time. This is why speed dating is very popular—it saves people huge amounts of time.

Speed Dating Explained

Speed dates are normally organised by groups and can be categorised into two—straight speed dating and gay speed dating. I’ve read reports on how the latter has become so popular not only in the United States, but the rest of Europe and Asia! Time2

The appeal of speed dating cannot be denied. The chance of meeting a person who may be “The one” for you is definitely out there in the open, and a speed date may be your way to find out who he or she is. Normally, what happens before a speed date involves the following:

  • Registration. This is the part where the participants will register their names with matching numbers. Throughout the speed date, no names can be given, and participants are only identified through a number that was given to them prior to the event.
  • Speed Date. This is the fun part—participants attempt to know each other in less than 3 minutes or so. In such short time, it’s up to the participant on how he or she would want to present himself or herself to her date. Participants may have a checklist and note numbers that catch their attention. When the time limit is up, a buzzer sounds, indicating that it’s time to move on and get to know the next participant. After all participants have met everyone, they return their checklists at the booth.
  • Intermission. Normally, at the end of a speed date is a brief intermission in which the organisers would tally the results based on the participants’ checklists. Usually, they will announce whose number received the most number of checks/YES. It is up to their discretion if they will reveal the results on the same night, or contact the participants after a day, should the results be favourable and would make a match.

Timing is Everything

You’d never know when or where your “the one” would be, but it won’t really hurt for you to discover the joys of speed dating. Not only it is fun, but you get to meet a lot of people along the way. You can practice you seduction skills here– you’ve read about the wonders of Sonic Seduction and the importance of knowing how to seduce women here on my blog, right? You never know what can happen—so go out there and make yourself available to the world!

Julia and Robert

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Hello, readers! Today, my girlfriend Aminah told me a story about her friend who recently was involved in a blind date. If you’ve been following my blog for the past months(which I hope you still do!), you may remember this article that explored blind dating.

According to Julia, Aminah’s friend, it was quite difficult at first to process the thought that she  was going on a blind date. I could never blame her! Besides, meeting a total stranger is scary, but at the same time exciting– you just never know if the person you’d meet next would be the one for you.

Who knows what could happen?

Who knows what could happen?

Anyway, it turned out that Julia had a great time. She told us that Rupert, her date, is extremely smooth and nice. He got her swooning over him almost instantly because of his suave demeanor and confidence. I half-jokingly told Julia that Rupert might be reading my blog, particularly an article that I’ve written about seduction– because he seemed so good at it!

Turns out blind dating can lead to potential relationships, like in Julia and Rupert’s case. The excitement continues. I would definitely report their progress from time to time!

Some Blog Updates… On My Love Life!

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I am finding it so much easier here in Malaysia to meet women, and that’s no joke. I am now considering moving here full time as well (see my back story here). Opening up a Bricklane Bookshop here in Kuala Lumpur would be nice, but first I will need to raise funds from potential investors…

Malaysian women are friendly, and they are generally very kind-hearted. My girlfriend Aminah cooks me lunch and dinner every day, and I am blessed to have her in my life. I love her to bits!

Needless to say, my love life has improved so much and it’s pretty awesome. I know many of you read this blog for dating and relationship content (and much of that comes from my own personal library of seduction books inside the vaults of the Bricklane Bookshop!), and ever since I published that article on blind dating I have been getting lots of emails on the specific seduction techniques that I talked about in that article. I will be writing a follow-up post to that soon… but right now I need to spend more quality time with Aminah my girlfriend! :)

Meanwhile, enjoy reading this article that I found browsing my favorite love advice site today. Read it, and leave me your feedback.

Talk soon!

Moving to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Some Real Estate Considerations)

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Now I have been contemplating this for long, and this decision has come timely. We are expanding our bookshop to one of the premier Southeast Asia countries – Malaysia! Yes, the Bricklane is finally opening its official branch – in the capital city of Kuala Lumpur.

We have contemplated this decision for very long now – close to two years in fact. What sealed the deal finally is the fact that we now have a Malaysian business partner. The Malaysian joint venture company is actually a real estate agent which specializes in properties in the heart of the capital city, Kuala Lumpur.

We are really stoked!

Now being foreigners it can be really difficult for us to establish ourselves in Malaysia, and given our inexperience it only made sense for us to engage a local (Malaysian) partner. Opening up a bookshop is not capital intensive, but we still need local expertise when it comes to getting a piece of real estate for us to build the bookshop.

It’s really all about the location. This is especially so when it comes to properties in Malaysia. Again, having a Malaysian property agency is an advantage. We have been eyeing a couple of locations now – namely Segambut Dalam, the Kuala Lumpur City Centre (or known more popularly as KLCC), and also Mont Kiara. Given our targeting of affluent book lovers we have finally decided to acquire a piece of real estate in the KLCC enclave.

What especially impresses me about KLCC is that the area is quite “integrated” in nature – there are lots of condominiums and serviced apartments as well as hotels which surround the famous Petronas Twin Towers.

We have then decided to locate the Malaysian branch of the Bricklane Bookshop on the ground floor of a condominium. This is so that we maximize the traffic footprint and also get weekend visitors.

The Skybridge on the Petronas Twin Towers, KLCC. Picture courtesy of sxc.hu

The Skybridge on the Petronas Twin Towers, KLCC. Picture courtesy of sxc.hu

We then went online to check for listings and classifieds of available condominium and apartment units in the KLCC area. Weirdly, a search on RightMove did not result in any findings for property for sale or rent in the KLCC area. We had to go to a Malaysian property search engine in order to get some listings that we wanted. Hunting for KLCC condominiums proved to be troublesome without being physically present in Malaysia. However, with the availability of online Malaysia property search portals this task is made easier.

We are now narrowing down the choices to these few developments: Troika, OneKL, Binjai On The Park and Platinum Residences. Right now I absolutely love all these condominiums, and so choosing only one might be problematic!

Updates: Posted Jan 11th, 2013

[dc]W[/dc]e have finally settled down here in Kuala Lumpur, and so far we are liking it very much. Being right smack in the middle of the city is interesting, although my partner Emily prefers an apartment unit in the outskirts – Bangsar, Mont Kiara or Kajang for that matter. I like the Petronas Twin Towers too much to move out of this place.

I have been receiving emails on how to hunt for the best condo here in Kuala Lumpur, and I felt compelled to share some tips. I gone online to hunt for the house, and this is an increasingly popular trend as evidenced in this report -

http://www.realtor.org/sites/default/files/reports/2013/Study-Digital-House-Hunt-2013-01.pdf

Now I have never been to Malaysia before this, but the real estate websites are awesome. These are some that I used -

  1. http://homeguru.com.my
  2. http://klcccondominiums.com.my
  3. http://propertyforsale.com.my

There’s also “iproperty” which is quite big, and I like it a lot. The founder of that website is very handsome, and Emily has got a huge crush on him. I would like to meet him someday over tea and scones.

Meanwhile we have been shopping around for furniture, and traveling up to Sitiawan on the recommendation of a close friend. We stayed at the five-star Hotel Flamingo which looked really awesome, and it’s on par with Mandarin Oriental here in KLCC. No joke.

Watch this space for more updates! :)

Blind Dating: Is it Still Part of Today’s Dating Trends?

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This is a follow-up to the pickup tips blog post. Today’s tip is about a slight twist to dating – what do you do if you manage to arrange a blind date?

Blind dates were common in the past. But with a lot of risks that this kind of dating may pose, is it still that common nowadays? A lot of people already don’t have a taste for blind dating because crimes have been prevalent in the world and now we just can’t take the risk of dating a stranger. This is the part of blind dating that most people have completely misunderstood. Blind dating today has been a lot different from the style in the past. Before, single people looking for a partner can post their names or aliases on a newspaper telling others that they are looking for a date. Today, it’s not that way. Read why in a previous blog post here.

My friend Amy is a pro “blind-dater”, and she has got the following dating tips and techniques to share.

Blind dating today is already quite a misnomer because when you say blind date, it means you have no idea about the person that you will be dating. Nowadays, people are very wise in doing a background check. And then we developed the habit of pretending not to know the person when in fact we already know where they came from, what their work is, or even the kind of family that they were raised from.

This is the power of internet technology as far as dating is concerned not to mention Facebook, Twitter, and Google+. Now don’t confuse it with internet dating. When we talk about blind dating, networking sites are used as a source of information about a person. Meaning that you already know the person but you just needed more details about the person. Internet dating is another topic we can discuss separately.

So what makes blind dating today blind? If you have already made a research about the person and have a date with him, is it still called a blind date? The answer to that is evolution. The idea of blind dating today has already evolved. A person can have a blind date through an introduction by a bridging party. For example, your workmate will introduce his cousin to you and tries to set you up on a blind date. It is still similar to a typical blind date. The only difference is that you already have the opportunity to pick someone you are interested by knowing them first through Facebook or Twitter.

This has compensated the risks of dating a stranger today. Technically, blind dates are already not strangers since you have already known them in a different way. What makes them strangers is the fact that you still have not personally met them. This is basically what blind dating today is all about. By seeing the person’s face online, you can already tell if you are physically attracted to them. By blind dating them, intellectual attraction may or may not follow.

Thus, blind dating is actually still common nowadays. People just don’t realize its essence. It’s not surprising to know that a lot of people who are in a relationship today started with adding each other as friends on Facebook, liked each other, got on a date, and ended up  liking each other more. This is the basis of female psychology which makes a woman fall in love – even during blind dates. For more on this, check out this nice article -

http://octobermansequence.org/how-to-win-a-girls-heart/

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Finally, the Bricklane Bookshop is holding an annual meetup for our Platinum Reader Circle in a month’s time. Email platinum@bricklanebookshop.com for more information!

How to play mind games with girls

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OK, today’s blog post on dating and seduction is gonna be a little on the “naughty” side…

I’ve been motivated by sites like “fastseduction dotcom” and http://www.fractionationseduction.net that I feel compelled to write my own techniques on dating and seducing women. And today, I am going to talk about playing mind games with women. This is, of course, somewhat similar to the fractionation technique which I have discussed at length previously. And as I am moving to Kuala Lumpur these techniques will be helpful when I start approaching Malaysian women! *wink*

A lot of guys look for ways to have more control in their relationships. If you have noticed that your girlfriend has most of the power in your relationship, you are probably looking for ways to get the control back. It is important for you to remember that you did not release your control all at once and you won’t gain it all back at once. Getting back the control you once had takes patience. If you are willing to be patience and follow the steps listed in the following paragraphs, you will be able to get back the power you once had over your girlfriend. Getting back the control you had over your girlfriend starts by playing mind games. If you can successfully play mind games with your girlfriend, she will value you more as a boyfriend. So, how can you play mind games with girls? (Note that these techniques will also work when you are working to attract a cougar).

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There are many ways to play mind games with girls. One of the best ways to play mind games with girls is to make demands that you usually don’t make. For example, ask her to watch a sports game with you even if you know she doesn’t like it. Ask her to do this multiple times and see what her reaction is. If she doesn’t over react, then you already have a good deal of control over her. If you get a bad reaction from her, then you need to take some other steps to ensure that you can later exert power over her. But before you proceed on the other dating tips and techniques, read this first.

Another way to play mind games with your girlfriend is to stop calling and texting her. Girls like communicating and when communication is cut off from them, they usually do not react in a good way. If your girlfriend is frustrated that you have stopped calling and texting her, it is actually a sign that she values you. If your girlfriend is not upset that you stopped calling her, it shows that she thinks you are expendable. If she doesn’t mind that you’ve stopped calling her, you might want to work on getting her back under your wing. To do this, spend more time with her and do things that she wants to do. If she is already “over” the relationship, it is important to stop playing mind games until she is more emotionally invested in the relationship.

Finally, you can play mind games with girls by not complimenting her. This is a great way to see how much she values your opinion. Most women want to be complimented all the time. When you refuse to give them the recognition they want, they will react badly. If your girlfriend reacts badly, it is a sign that you already exert a good amount of control over her. It shows you that in order to feel good about herself, you need to tell her that she looks good. If your girlfriend does not react when you stop complimenting her, it is a sign that she does not value your opinion at all. If you want to move on, then you might want to re-learn the skills of how to get a girlfriend who is right for you.

Like this blog post? Hate it? Let me know. :)

How To Use Fractionation To Attract Women

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This short blog post is about this particularly powerful dating and seduction tactic called fractionation. First invented by monsters psychologists such as John Grinder and Luis Frisco, this tactic particularly famous as one of the 10 secret seduction routines which happened to be able to bestow ordinary men seduction superpowers. Techniques which are similar to fractionation are the October man sequence, the dark moon pattern, the death routine among others. There is one version of fractionation which has been distilled and simplified to be used in every day seduction and pickup situations called the fractionation formula. Written by Derek Rake, it is one of the more popular seduction sequences based on fractionation that has emerged from the years.

The origin of fractionation

Fractionation is a technique which has its foundations in psychology and advanced mind control. Not many guys notice, but this technique has got its roots in the same field of study as neuro linguistic programming or better known as NLP. Fractionation has long been taught in the underground seduction circles as part of the more advanced dating and pickup curriculum. In fact, there were a group of seduction gurus and elders were contains teaching fractionation to the common public because there is a potential for the technique to be misused. Since the technique deals with human psychology and particularly exploits a little-known loophole in female psychology, there is a risk of negative effects on the woman’s psyche if this tactic is abused. It is so powerful that using it has been likened to bringing a nuclear bomb to a fistfight. It is super powerful indeed.

Back in the 1980s the fractionation techniques have been frowned upon by the same seduction gurus who have invented it partly because they do not want the post to the general public. This all changed when Neil Strauss wrote about it briefly in his New York Times bestseller book called The Game (which incidentally exposes the pickup artist subculture to the mainstream media). Since this expose, there has been intense general public interest and scrutiny on how this technique works and particularly how tactic could harm women if used properly and maliciously.

Now if you are female you might also be interested in this technique is for one reason. If you have experience falling in love with a man very quickly (say in about 15 minutes from the time you met him at a public place), chances are that he has use fractionation to seduce you. Therefore it is useful for any woman to really understand this technique so that she does not fall into similar traps in the future.

How fractionation seduction works

In short, using fractionation to attract women involves the process of using mild hypnosis and mind control in order to build strong emotional connection with a woman so that she falls in love with you. It is important to note that fractionation has to be executed in a subtle way so that the woman do not consciously feel that you are trying to pick her up. When she is fully conscious of what you’re trying to do then the process of seduction breaks apart.

It is also important to note that fractionation does not just involve the specific lines that you see in order to make a go fall in love with you. Your body language must also be congruent with what you want to say to her to make her like you. Your tone of voice should also be deemed an hypnotic. It wouldn’t help if you sound like Daffy Duck! In short, fractionation is a combination of the specific lines that you say to make a girl like you, the tone of voice that you adopt when you deliver those lines to her and finally your body language will have to portray confidence and high value as a man.